When it comes down to a choice between letting the judge decide for himself what the important issues are, and treating the judge like a baby, I'll choose without hesitation to baby the judge.
That's how I feel, too. But the problem is that in R9 (remember, I'm new there so I'm just finding this out), judges don't like that. They think it's demeaning. They want to be treated like an expert -- which ticks me off because some of them need
to be treated like they don't know much about a certain issue -- BECAUSE THEY DON'T. But you'll get marked down if you treat the judge that way...
You can definitely baby a judge without making them feel babied. It's called persuasion